Behind Closed Doors
1 Peter 3:1 (The Message) 1 Peter 3 Cultivate Inner Beauty 1-4The same goes for you wives: Be good wives to your husbands, responsive to their needs. There are husbands who, indifferent as they are to any words about God, will be captivated by your life of holy beauty. What matters is not your outer appearance—the styling of your hair, the jewelry you wear, the cut of your clothes—but your inner disposition.


Ouch! When I read this passage of scripture I must admit that it made me squirm in my seat. After having 38 years of marriage under my belt and more years than that of being a Christian, I no longer try to justify my ungodly behavior towards my mate when I am reprimanded by God's word. I take my licks like a big girl and I adjust my attitude. Years ago, I had an answer for every reason that I represented Christ poorly in my marriage. Whether it was because I was tired, pms-ing, angry, or whatever, I felt that whatever I did there was a justified excuse for doing so and my husband and God should understand that. NOT!

Ladies, if you are wondering why your unsaved husband does not want to hear anything about God? Or why your saved husband does not seem to be growing in his love for God? Maybe, just maybe, it could be because your behavior "behind closed doors" is anything but loving and responsive to his needs. I have come to find out in my long years of marriage that my husband needs me to lay my hands on him for more reasons than just for prayer. He needs to hear me say other words to him besides those that are found in the bible. He needs me to conduct myself in a way that says, "I know you are not perfect, but you are perfect for me".



I am still amazed at the great pretenders that many of us are. Albeit, hypocrites would be a better word. While I agree that we should all behave respectably towards our mates in public, it is quite another thing to be so "different" from who your are at home that even your husband does not know who you are. Ladies, let us work towards being the wife behind closed doors that we reflect to those in public. One who is loving and considerate towards our mate. One who represents a godly presence at all times.  Let us remember the sagacious words found in Proverbs 14:1, "A wise woman builds her house; a foolish woman tears her's down with her own hands."

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